On self-care when you are feeling ugly, JoEllen Notte https://t.co/DLRxfhHAsk— amber dipietra (@thebodypoetik) August 16, 2016
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August 15, 2016 at 10:56PM
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"And that’s really where I center a lot of my work around sexuality. It’s just looking at those social aspects of sexuality and how the stigma of disability impacts our sexuality, how we’re deemed undesirable and how we need to break that apart. That’s where I spend a lot of my time. I’m not super interested in the mechanics because I really think that’s some of the easier stuff to figure out. You just practice and play and figure it out.But with regard to unpacking internalized ableism, and being able to look at your naked body in a mirror and not hate what you see, because that’s what culture teaches us to believe, I think that requires a lot more work and a lot more conversation."I've been a bit down on myself for not having more specific knowledge of pulse rate during the orgasmic refractory period and not being able to to recommend which Hitachi vibrator is best for a woman with a tilted cervix. But, once I heard Bethany say "desirability", it hit me--this is also my focus. It is exactly the word I needed to point toward my intentions as an intimacy coach for people with disabilities. It is about building one's own sense of desirability, not just in relation to other's, but in relation to the way one approaches their own life--being a lover unto one's self, the juice and the juju in a daily sensual lifestyle you create for yourself. I have a client with severe cerebral palsy. His current project is to pose nude for a sketch artist. It's not the portrait that will be made, it's not the illicit details of what might happen after he posts online as a nude model, it's not the surprise connections that no one can predict in this project, and its not the rejection or the ignorant assessments he may have thrown his way. It's all these things that contribute to his own self-love, his own sense of his personal desirability that will arise from this erotic project. And, I can't really advise him on any mechanics or logistics for approaching the project. But I can advise him on style, timing, emotional tone, aesthetic details in writing his ad, in taking good self-care as he makes himself vulnerable, in contingency plans for offers gone awry. This stylistic consulting might help him have more delicious outcomes. This is consulting on desirability as it arcs towards intimacy and erotic self-knowledge. With his permission, I'll update you on what happens!
“This is what you shall do; Love the earth and sun and the animals, despise riches, give alms to every one that asks, stand up for the stupid and crazy, devote your income and labor to others, hate tyrants, argue not concerning God, have patience and indulgence toward the people, take off your hat to nothing known or unknown or to any man or number of men, go freely with powerful uneducated persons and with the young and with the mothers of families, read these leaves in the open air every season of every year of your life, re-examine all you have been told at school or church or in any book, dismiss whatever insults your own soul, and your very flesh shall be a great poem and have the richest fluency not only in its words but in the silent lines of its lips and face and between the lashes of your eyes and in every motion and joint of your body.”A great poet of the flesh is Seth Taylor, of Port Charlotte, Florida. He and I have been corresponding for almost two years now, via Facebook. Seth has spastic cerebral palsy. His hands are contracted in to tight fists and his voice is impaired, but he is fluent with his toes. Not only does he type with his toes, he has written a book called The World at My Feet, which roams from the landscape and wildlife along the Myakka Rver, baseball, accessible home design, the way the internet has created a socio-cultural revolution for people with disabilities, to many other subjects.
"In addition to a diverse range of sexuality based workshops, Sex Down South will offer attendees access to various education stations where participants can learn and practice sexy skills taught by experts, as well as attendance at our one-of-a-kind SEXxATL talks by local Atlanta experts.
The theme of Sex Down South 2015 is Transcending Sex, and will include an in-depth exploration of different tantric practices. With industry experts, keynote speakers and vendors from around the country, the 2015 Sex Down South conference is not to be missed.
Expect over 50 presenters and workshops to choose from including appearances by Sex Celebs including: Devi Ward, Tristan Taormino, Amy Jo Goddard, Lee Harrington, Dr. Ruth Neustifter, and Dr. Tamara Campbell-Griffin!"If you are a professional sex-plorer, it is not too late to register, though rates are going up. Or, schedule a consult with me when I return, as I will have plenty of new skills and sensual inspiration to share.